In 1982 the Brit band The Clash were shouting the mental torture behind making an important choice to the world.
Should I stay or should I go now?
If I go there will be trouble
An’ if I stay it will be double
The song seems to refer to a love relation, but since songs – as art in general – are never of their creators and always of the receivers, Should I Stay or Should I Go fits whoever is considering a change in their life. If you are familiar with the song, you have probably sang it to yourself (more than a couple of times) while thinking of leave a job, a place, someone.
No question. It is hard to make a decision because we do not see the future. But, as a matter of fact, choices are what bring us forwards. I, personally, would always prefer to go. If there have to be troubles, at least they will be new ones. Let’s call it optimism. If you ask me, this is how I came to live in the Caribbean.
My husband got a job offer in a school in Sint Maarten as a Geography and Science teacher. We weren’t obliged to accept. I could have decided to stay in the Netherlands where I’ve spent the best seven years of my life, notwithstanding the rain and the frikandel. On paper this appears to be one of those lucky choices between oyster or lobster, white or red wine, sea or mountains. But when it gets real it is never easy to leave a comfort zone, even if you’ve dreamt about it for a lifetime.
If someone would ask you to move to the other side of the world, would you do it?